Imagine that this little boy indicates that he is thirsty. Mom or dad can use this as a chance to offer a choice by holding up juice or milk. They ask, “Do you want juice or milk? Which one?” Choice making helps a child gain independence!
Studies of parents of deaf and hard of hearing children show that if parents and children communicate easily, then parents can find positive ways of helping children take part in decision making.
If communication is difficult, then parents tend to make many more of the decisions. When this happens, young children can begin to use inappropriate behaviors to demand some control.
Providing choices is a useful parenting tool for avoiding behavior problems. It recognizes a growing capability and the right of children to have at least a small "say" in their own lives. It also helps a child learn to make decisions and express preferences.