Babies start to communicate well before they know any words.
Our job is to do what comes naturally, recognize what they mean (be a translator!), and respond with our words and attention.
Babies listen and pay attention to important voices around them. They discover their voices and play with sounds in squeals, grunts, coos and gurgles.
Babies discover that they can join sounds together to make "da" or "ga" – soon after, they may babble strings like "dadada" or "gagaga."
They start to point or reach. These gestures may mean, "I want that!" or "Look at me!"
Families can support their little ones by following the two R's to support early communication:
Recognize your baby's signals – a facial expression, eye contact, reaching – and ask: "What is my baby trying to say?"
Respond to these signals as communication. Remind yourselves, "Talk about my baby's idea."
The important point at the beginning is to be sure that your baby knows that you responded. This will help your baby begin to predict that you will respond and helps makes conversations exciting for both of you. The words will come in time.
Did you pick "4"? We would too. A child's feelings are not acknowledged if we say, "Don't cry." The other responses name his feelings and put words with what he is trying to say.
You offer your child a choice of milk or water (holding up each).
Which response below would you LEAVE OUT?
Did you leave out "2?" It can be hard for little ones to make up their mind, but we might want to offer more language before trying to move the child along toward a decision.
Let's get some practice with the following exercise. Watch the clip and notice what the baby does to communicate. What do you think she is trying to say?
The baby expressed herself by:
a) Vocalizing b) Smiling c) Fussing d) Pointing at mom e) b and c
The correct answer is (e). At the tender age of 8 months, this little girl has figured out lots of ways to express herself. Did you notice that as dad played their "up" game routine, Signe smiled and looked at him. But notice when she had enough, she fussed a wriggled and her dad immediately changed direction and let her down. He was very tuned in to her signals of smiling, fussing, and using body language. Watch again and see if you can pick out each of the ways she communicated without words.
Let's try another example. See if you can recognize what the baby did to communicate to her mom. She is 8 months of age in this example.
a) Turning to look at mom b) Crying c) Vocalizing d) Gesturing
Did you pick "a" - the answer "turning to look at mom?" That's right. The baby uses her gaze direction to take her turn. Notice that mom asks her, "Where's kitty?" It is evident that Signe is aware that her mom used a familiar word. She looks up, then smiles and almost seems to look for her favorite kitty. Her mom is giving her an opportunity to show beginnings of understanding of a familiar word. As parents, we become the detectives…figuring out all the different forms of communication used by children, and responding with our words and supportive actions.