~"I
discovered early on that one of the best resources for
learning how to work with professionals were the parents
who had been doing it for years. From them I learned what
my rights were, as well as more tactful ways of stating
my opinions and making my requests known."
~"The
best advice I can give to parents is to not be persuaded
easily by one professional's opinion. Seek out a few opinions
and make decisions based on what is best for you, your
child, and your family."
~"Many
new parents feel bewildered when working with professionals,
as usually they know little or nothing compared to the
years of study and practice of those working with their
child. They need to not be afraid to say they don't understand,
or to ask questions, or for suggestions on reading materials
that they can read up on to help them understand the situation
better."
~"Remember
that not everything is set in stone."
~"Ask
questions, make lists and ask more questions. Don' let
professionals blow you off. Ask until you understand!"
~"Don't
be afraid to ask questions if you don't understand. If
the professional acts impatient or otherwise makes you
feel uncomfortable or stupid, find someone else!"
None
of us becomes an advocate overnight. We learn to do this
as the need arises. It takes time and effort to reach the
point where you are confident enough to walk into a room
full of professionals and go head to head with someone who
is more educated on the subject than you are. Tapping into
the knowledge and experience of "veteran parents"
can be an excellent way to learn to advocate effectively
for your child. Most are more than willing to share what
they have learned over the years. 